Fast Sex - Slow Love

The anthropological reasons why the relationships today are actually heading to a better future. Romance is very much alive!

Hey there, fellow relationship seekers! Are you tired of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with intense, head-over-heels love?

Well, have no fear because Dr. Fisher a scientist and an anthropologist, is here to explain why we're heading towards a better evolutionary stage in human relationships. And guess what? The future is not bleak!

Fast Love

Love and out ancient brain

So you're madly in love with someone, and your brain is going haywire. Turns out, it's the oldest part of your brain responsible for all this chaos. Dr. Fisher calls it the "drive, craving, obsession, and motivation" zone. All of us felt that madly-in-love phase, it is the primate in you and it is an important step to a long-term coupling.

But wait, there's a catch! The more recent part of our brain responsible for decision-making and planning? Yeah, it takes a backseat during this romantic madness. No wonder people can fall for someone completely unsuitable, like someone who lives on Mars or has a pet dinosaur.

Slow love to the rescue

Now, don't despair! Dr. Fisher has some solid advice. Before you tie the knot, spend some quality time with your potential partner. Why? Well, those intense feelings of romantic love need to simmer down a bit. It's like trying to judge a dish while it's still bubbling in the pot. Let it cool off, taste it a few times, and see if it's really as delicious as it smells.

Lucky you! You are living in the era of smart relationship choices. Millions of years before you were born have been setting up this golden period for you. People are now getting to know each other better before committing. They're testing the waters with one-night stands, friends with benefits, and living together. In fact, a study found that 67% of singles are scared of divorce—terrified of the legal, financial, personal, and social fallout. So, instead of recklessness, it might just be caution. Singles are becoming investigative reporters, collecting every bit of information before signing the marriage contract.

The grand finale

Marriage! It is no longer the beginning; it's the grand finale of a relationship. Thanks to the "fast sex, slow love" approach, we're becoming relationship connoisseurs. Dr. Fisher's research with Match.com tells us that 81% of married folks would remarry their current partner. Why? Because they took the time to truly understand what they were getting into. So, buckle up, because we're heading towards happier marriages.

The recipe for love

Here is the juicy brain science behind long-lasting partnerships. Dr. Fisher gives us the lowdown on sustaining the three essential brain systems for mating and reproduction:

sex drive
romantic love
deep attachment

Sex Drive: Schedule some steamy sessions with your partner. It increases testosterone, cuddling triggers oxytocin, and well, anything that tickles your adventurous side will fire up the dopamine system. It's like a love cocktail for your brain!
Romantic Love: Embrace novelty! Try new things together, explore, and keep the sparks flying. Dopamine loves surprises, and so will your relationship.
Deep Attachment: Stay connected physically and emotionally. Cuddle, hold hands, take long moments is bed together and be affectionate. The oxytocin system thrives on touch, and it'll create a stronger bond.

And the icing on the cake? Compliments! Shower your partner with kindness and say at least five nice things a day. It's not only good for them but also reduces stress, boosts your immune system, and lowers cholesterol. Talk about relationship recipe for magic!

The future is bright

So, my friends, here's the scoop: we're evolving towards better relationship dynamics. We're taking our time, exploring compatibility, and making smarter choices. The brain science behind it all shows us that slow and steady wins the race. So, strap on your seatbelts, embark on the journey of "slow love," and create long-term attachments filled with romance, joy, and genuine happiness. After all, we're built to love, and the future looks brighter than ever!

Disclaimer: Remember, always trust your own instincts and make choices that feel right for you. Love is an adventure, and you're the protagonist of your own story.